When you reach the end of your life, whether it’s decades away or in the next few years, have you thought about what you’ll regret? Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse for those suffering from serious diseases, wrote a book in 2012 called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. At some point in our lives, whether at the end or in the middle, we all tend to regret something. Some people hold on to that regret for so long that it poisons every future experience. Here are five tips on how to let go of regret, so that you don’t end up regretting any of the top five in Ware’s book.
Do It Scared: Finding the Courage to Face Your Fears, Overcome Adversity, and Create a Life You Love is Ruth Soukup’s sixth book. Ruth is the founder of Elite Blog Academy, Living Well Spending Less, and the Living Well Planner. Do It Scared is a book about fear—how fear affects different people in different ways, how to reframe and manage the different fear archetypes, and how to embrace the principles of courage to stop living a life you hate.
Have you ever stopped to wonder why you fear what you do? Some people are scared of leaving their houses (agoraphobia), some are scared of spiders (arachnophobia), and some people are scared of germs (germophobia). But why do people fear these things? What about bigger fears? Like fear of failure, fear of humiliation, fear of rejection, fear of making a mistake? What do you fear? But more importantly, why do you fear it?
When we were children, it’s highly likely that our favorite word was “no.” Maybe we didn’t know what it actually meant (early on) but it’s fun to say, and it made our parents make those funny faces of defeat and desperation. But when we grew up, saying “no” became less fun and more likely to get us in trouble. And those faces of defeat and desperation turned into faces of incredulity and “you’re grounded” looks. We never learned the right way to say it.
Have you ever experienced someone who made you feel like you were doing everything wrong? Like you could never please them, like their expectations changed without warning, or like everything is always your fault? Did it end up making you think you might be insane? Don’t worry—you’re not. That person is probably just a narcissist.