In the Reddit community, there’s a sub called JUSTNOMIL. In it are thousands of stories of women dealing with crazy mothers-in-law, sometimes in “the wild” and oftentimes on a daily or weekly basis with their own.
There’s a certain level of entitlement that these mothers-in-law tend to exhibit.
Things like “rights” to their grandchildren, or demanding things from their sons/daughters/in-laws, or manipulation to make things go their way, and much, much more that is honestly a little horrifying.
But one central characteristic of a lot of the women in this community is having a “shiny spine” to stand up to their mothers-in-law.
And the most important time this “shiny spine” comes into play is when they finally find their hill to die on.