When you reach the end of your life, whether it’s decades away or in the next few years, have you thought about what you’ll regret? Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse for those suffering from serious diseases, wrote a book in 2012 called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. At some point in our lives, whether at the end or in the middle, we all tend to regret something. Some people hold on to that regret for so long that it poisons every future experience. Here are five tips on how to let go of regret, so that you don’t end up regretting any of the top five in Ware’s book.
Do It Scared: Finding the Courage to Face Your Fears, Overcome Adversity, and Create a Life You Love is Ruth Soukup’s sixth book. Ruth is the founder of Elite Blog Academy, Living Well Spending Less, and the Living Well Planner. Do It Scared is a book about fear—how fear affects different people in different ways, how to reframe and manage the different fear archetypes, and how to embrace the principles of courage to stop living a life you hate.
Last month (April 2019) I started a Couch-to-5K program (C25K), intending to prove to myself that despite my historic hate for running, I can actually do it and not die.
I’m pleased to report that, five-and-two-thirds weeks through, I have not died. In general, I’ve exceeded even my own expectations about running. By far the biggest factor in this exercise (pun intended) that has made the difference is a good sports bra.
It’s easy to get sucked into the trap that other people have it all figured out. It’s easy to think that if we just did the same things that those successful people we look up to do, that we’d have it made. There are a lot of problems with that idea, not the least of which is that other people’s goals are not and never will be the best goals… For you.
Raise your hand. How many times have you looked at someone’s success and thought that maybe you could do that too?
- Create an online course
- Travel the world for free
- Have a perfectly curated life (and showing the best of the best on social media)
- Run a marathon, free-climb in Yosemite, or perform slick stunts on the ski slope
- Build a multi-million dollar online empire
- Get a TV special with your name on it
- Host a talk show
How many times do we, as a society, look to others for what we should be doing with our lives?
It’s great for inspiration, to be sure… But adopting others’ achievements (and goals) as our own doesn’t ever end up how we think it will.
My endeavor to complete sequential months of 30-day challenges has lost some steam, but that seems to have been a natural consequence of my personality.
To recap, these are the 30-day challenges I’ve done so far, whether to completion or not:
- August 2018: Write 1000 Words a Day
- September 2018: Read 10+ Books in 30 Days
- October 2018: Hand-Copy the Book of Acts
- November 2018: National Novel Writing Month
- December 2018: Decluttering
- January 2018: Book Editing
- February 2018: Interviewing my Grandmother
You’ll notice I don’t have March on there… Because I needed a break.
I had intended to spend March creating one new bullet journal spread a day, but the magnitude of the previous three challenges has been overwhelming—considering I did not complete them, not really.