Have you ever experienced someone who made you feel like you were doing everything wrong? Like you could never please them, like their expectations changed without warning, or like everything is always your fault? Did it end up making you think you might be insane? Don’t worry—you’re not. That person is probably just a narcissist.
I don’t know if it’ll come as a huge surprise, but I am a procrastinator. It’s also known as being a perfectionist. When I took Ruth Soukup’s Fear Assessment, my top three archetypes were 1) People Pleaser, 2) Procrastinator, and 3) Rule Follower. Out of those three the last two I knew about, but the first one makes sense when I think about it. Nevertheless, procrastination has been a part of my life for what seems like forever.
Kids are mean. Adults can be meaner. We all probably had to deal with bullies while growing up. I did. My bullies wore faces of silent exclusion and judgment on the school playground, in the gym during PE, and in math class when I raised my hand to answer most of the questions. My bullies were family members. They were girls I thought were my friends in elementary and high school. Boys who called me “freak” when lined up for a fire drill on the soccer field.
Ignoring bullies carries a high price, especially among the younger demographic. When I was much younger my parents enrolled my sister and me in karate, but neither of us stayed with it for long.
I wish I had. I wish my parents had put us through jiu-jitsu and encouraged us to keep with it regardless of the rollercoaster of emotion that accompanies childhood.
But martial arts, regardless of how cool they are, are not the only way to protect yourself against bullies.
A lot of it comes down to emotional protection, boundaries, knowing when to walk away, and knowing when to get help.
I turned 26 in the first week of April. One of the most defining things about me is that I have had type 1 diabetes for over 20 years. And because of that, I basically need health insurance to live.
The current state of the pharmaceutical industry and all the outrage over insulin pricing hits home for me. I’m not directly affected, but I have friends with crappier insurance than mine—and I’m double-covered, at least through April 2019. Then it’s adios, dad’s insurance.
I’ve had it great for the last few years, and I fully recognize that—I took full advantage of the reduced out-of-pocket costs for insulin, test strips, pump supplies, and CGM supplies. I’ve been lucky enough to always have really good insurance, despite how frustrating it can be to deal with them.
As such, I’d like to share a few reasons why I absolutely hate that health insurance pretty much controls my life.
Life is full of stressful moments. Different people have different ways to get through them, using methods they’ve identified after years of trial and error. Some people, like me, use breathing techniques to do this. I want to share with you the breathing technique that helped me get through the anxious and stressful time when I was heading towards unemployment.