You’re not crazy, insane, or overreacting. You’re human.
This is what you should remember when someone gaslights you.
What is gaslighting?
Gaslighting is when someone does or says something, and later tells you it didn’t happen the way you remember it or even happen at all.
It’s also the term for when you move all the living room furniture an inch to the left every day and act like your parents are crazy for stubbing their toes every night on the coffee table.
Here’s an example:
Your mother-in-law makes a comment that you’re an unfit mother and that your child should live with her instead.
You react: “Excuse me?! WTF did you just say??”
“What? I didn’t say anything. You must have imagined it. You’re clearly overreacting to-” she huffs, “-SOMEthing.”
You have every right to feel upset because this person is insisting that you’re remembering wrong – or no, it didn’t even happen.
The definition of “gaslight” as a verb is “to manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.”
When you think of it like that, it’s so insidious and dark.