Welcome to The Journey to Magnificence! This is week nineteen: June 17-23, 2018.
So decision fatigue is real, and the end of this week really got whipped by it. I spent most of this week at a Management Kaizen class in Los Angeles and suffered the anxiety of dealing with Californian drivers in their natural habitat.
On the plus side, I published a piece on Medium every day, and finally got to see The Greatest Showman.
What I Said I’d Do
- Continue writing a short post on Medium every weekday, and a locked post on Saturday
- Finish Module 1 in 30 Days or Less to Virtual Assistant Success
- Finish Module 3 in Intentional Blog, and start/finish Module 4
- Watch 2 more videos in Mindset University
- Continue fine-tuning my time budget/tracker
What I Actually Worked On
- Achieved my Medium goals
- Started Module 1 of 30 Days or Less to VA Success
- Finished Module 3 of Intentional Blog, and got halfway through Module 4
- Watched 2 more Mindset University videos
- Tracked time for a third week 🙂
- Networked with the people I met in the class in CA
Sunday, Day 127 – Ahead of Schedule
“We talk a lot about hope, helping, and teamwork. Our whole message is that we are more powerful together.” Victoria Osteen
Going it alone is often the wrong thing to do. I know I can’t do everything. Eventually, I’ll have grown to the point of bringing together a team to help me do things.
And that’s how it should be.
Businesses are more powerful when you work as a team.
Have you ever been on a team before where that one guy bulldozes over everyone else to get it all done, without even consulting with the rest of you?
Or a school project where your partner did nothing?
That happened to me. I told the teacher and her grade tanked.
We’re more powerful together.
We’re more effective at enacting change when we pool brainpower and resources.
Help each other.
It’s a point of pride to me that I help my team at my job every day.
What are you doing to help today?
You Know What?
I really think I did well today.
My word count for today is pretty high, I batched post images through the end of August, and the next two Thursday posts are ready and waiting to be published.
While batching those post images I binge-listened to Dan Cumberland’s Meaning Movement podcast, up through episode 6. There was a lot of good content and talk about what it means to find happiness and meaning in your work, and that’s something I think many people struggle with.
I struggled with it, too.
In fact, Dan’s course, Job Fit Crash Course, is one of the first ones I took through WAHS.
It helped me pin down the things I know I like doing and how those things can fit into a career or job that brings me fulfillment.
Day 15 of Time Tracking, Complete!
Monday, Day 128 – Serendipitously Bumping Into People in Unexpected Places
“Negative attitude is nine times more powerful than positive attitude.” Bikram Choudhury
This is kind of a depressing statistic.
Just think about that.
I have an example from my own childhood.
There’s a water park in Washington called Wild Waves that we used to go to when I was a kid. My most vivid memory of a visit to that park is of me standing, alone, on one of the grassy hills where people put down for lunch, terrified because I’d lost my parents.
I remember that fear, anxiety, and terror of not being able to spot my parents among the vast throngs of people there.
That negative memory outweighs all the positive, happy times I had at Wild Waves.
It’s the same way with a negative attitude.
If you’re going to be negative about something, you’re more likely to see everything bad about it, even if there are nine times more positive things.
The big negative thing is the loud minority.
Brains are weird.
This morning I got into the line to board my flight to LA and saw, standing smack dab in front of me, an old boss.
I stared for a hot second, and then called his name a couple times to get his attention.
He seemed just as shocked to see me as I to see him! Nowadays, we don’t live or work anywhere near each other, but we just happened to be on the same flight this morning.
It was good to catch up with him, however briefly it took to wait for Zone 2 to board.
That seemed to be a good omen for my trip because tonight at the hotel I bumped into someone I met on my last trip (to Oklahoma) and he’s attending the same workshop I am this week.
This one is less surprising considering we work for the same company!
However, both these serendipitous crossing of paths has made me feel better about this trip. I don’t like traveling to places where I don’t know anyone, and it was nice to see my old boss on the plane and that coworker in the hotel restaurant.
On the plane, I spent a significant amount of time – about 2 hours of the 2.5-hour flight – working on articles and other things that are on the to-do list for this week.
Well, as much of it as I could do without internet.
Thank Evernote for offline folders!
Day 16 of Time Tracking, Complete!
Tuesday, Day 129 – California Drivers No Bueno
“Nature is so powerful, so strong. Capturing its essence is not easy – your work becomes a dance with light and the weather. It takes you to a place within yourself.” Annie Leibovitz
I’ve always loved being outdoors. Watching the strength of nature, especially during storms, makes me feel both small and incredibly loved. Being in the moment in nature is something we as a society are gradually forgetting how to do. Everyone has their phones out trying to capture the beauty, but the photo is never as good as what our eyes can see.
Maybe we should take fewer pictures and look more at the world.
So the title for today is not a slight against any of my Californian readers.
But in general today, I’ve noticed that not a lot of the drivers here are very friendly. In fact, the roads are prime and ripe with opportunity to get into a bad accident just because someone didn’t want to let me in when merging or trying to get on the 405 at rush hour.
But I digress.
I spent today in a Management Kaizen class, learning about my personality type when it comes to management.
As it turns out, I’m pretty validated.
On the DiSC profile, I register as a “C”, or Conscientiousness, which basically means I’m detail and fact-oriented, and value planning and organization. So basically literally everything I already knew, feels validated as a legitimate management style.
My biggest takeaway from the class today is that it’s very important to listen with the intent to understand, not to respond.
That’s so important I’m going to say it again:Listen with the intent to understand, not to respond. Click To Tweet
How many of us, in a conversation, are already thinking about our own response before the other person even stops talking?
This is something that I’ve noticed I do a lot.
I think of my response ahead of time, because I want to be prepared for my “speaking turn” instead of really trying to understand the other person.
I get the feeling that most people do this.
The other good takeaway today is more humorous, but the phrase “speak as if words cost money.” Meaning that someone who talks a lot should reconsider how much they’re talking!
Speak as if words cost money.
We’d be a lot more careful with what we say, wouldn’t we?
I know I would.
Money is kind of important.
But our words are more powerful and long-lasting than money.
Day 17 of Time Tracking, Complete!
Wednesday, Day 130 – Validation Feels Powerful
“There is no advertisement as powerful as a positive reputation traveling fast.” Brian Koslow
Reputations are fickle. It takes a long time to build them up, but one mistake to ruin them. When our reputations are good enough that people talk about us without our prompting, that’s the best kind of publicity and power.
Who would you trust more: a close friend recommending someone’s services because of a stellar experience? Or a cold call trying to sell you something you’re not sure you even need?
Yeah, I’d trust the friend too.
As I sit down to write this at the end of a very long day, I feel both tired and validated.
Tired because it was A) a long frickin’ day, and B) I’ve expended a lot of focused energy on the Management Kaizen class and writing content for both this blog and Medium.
It’s been a good day, though.
My main takeaway from this trip is that my personality type is valid, even though I might have to adjust my approach to effectively deal with other personality types.
I made connections with the other attendees, continued building a closer relationship with the coworker who took the class with me.
I’m proud of my work today and leave you with a good night.
Day 18 of Time Tracking, Complete!
Thursday, Day 131 – 11 Hours of Travel for a 2 Hour Flight
“Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough.” Brené Brown
I watched Brené’s TED talk on vulnerability, in which she talks about shame and fear. When we’re ashamed and afraid, we withdraw into ourselves for protection. But what we need to do is accept that vulnerability is the way to living a profound life.
I’ve never felt more accepted than when I’ve been open and vulnerable about my life.
While it’s definitely a risk, the reward is great.
I wrestled this morning with Los Angeles traffic to the airport.
Already at 6 AM, I began seriously dipping into my decision bank. My two-hour flight home was delayed for an hour, so I spent a grand total of about four hours at the airport before even boarding.
I will say this, though, Delta made me happy with its movie selection. I finally watched The Greatest Showman and still have the soundtrack playing in my head (as of Sunday).
Unfortunately, my decision bank got further depleted on the drive home (which took an hour and a half longer than it should have due to a car/trailer fire on an already-crappy highway).
All in all, it was a draining day, and besides the work I did at the airport, I had nothing left in me by the time I got home.
Sleep, I love you.
Day 19 of Time Tracking, Complete!
Friday, Day 132 – It Felt Like Saturday…
“The most powerful force ever known on this planet is human cooperation – a force for construction and destruction.” Jonathan Haidt
People work together for good and for bad. Obviously, we prefer working together for good, but that doesn’t preempt the bad.
I just think it’s a good idea to recognize the commonalities.
Working together is powerful regardless of the outcome, but the outcome determines how we feel about the cooperation.
Oftentimes we feel stronger alone as if working together means we’re weak.
But the opposite is true.
We are stronger together, whether our purpose is for good or evil.
Choose to be good.
I’m going to be totally honest.
Today, I took PTO and spent no time doing anything for the blog. I didn’t even write. 🙁
My decision fatigue from a long week spent traveling ate away at everything I did today. I had a doctor’s appointment this morning, and we shopped for some cat supplies, but other than that I spent way more time than I should have watching YouTube videos and episodes of Friends.
We topped it off with Doctor Strange, which is one of my favorite Marvel movies.
Here’s looking forward to recharging this weekend!
Day 20 of Time Tracking, Complete!
Saturday, Day 133 – Back Into the Swing
“The dreams and passions stored within hearts are powerful keys which can unlock a wealth of potential.” John C. Maxwell
If we never delve into our dreams and passions, we’ll never do anything that makes us feel fulfilled.
Only when we truly believe in something or are passionate about it do we feel like it’s made a difference in our lives.
Everyone has dreams and passions and virtually unlimited potential.
The key is to unlock those dreams and passions, in order to dip into that potential.
It took me a long time to figure out that I needed to write every day in order to be a writer.
That’s just one example of a key to unlocking our passions.
Today we had our third WAHS Seattle meetup! The husband and I met someone new and enjoyed decent Mongolian food. I got some good insight from my fellow Seattleite and am glad to have another person with whom I can talk about the courses.
I also started the 30 Days or Less to Virtual Assistant Success course, by Gina Horkey. So far it looks good, though it’s more reading than I expected. I’ve gotten used to most of the courses being video based.
In addition to that, I got about halfway through Module 4 of Intentional Blog.
I’m at the point where I need to create a good “autoresponder” sequence for new subscribers. Jeff Goins splits it into 6 different emails, which sounds like a lot to me! But I know from experience that it works.
So it looks like doing that is on the list for this week!
Day 21 of Time Tracking, Complete!
- Finish module 4 of Intentional Blog
- Finish module 1 of 30 Days or Less to VA Success
- Watch 2 more Mindset University videos
- Finish writing my Thursday posts through August. I have them scheduled through July, so I only need to get 5 more done!
- Pre-write Medium posts as the week continues. My goal will be to have them ready through July 13th. A tall order, but I think I might be able to do it!
If you missed a post or found this one first, the others can be found here:
- Intro: Tell Your Inner Voice to Shut Up
- 1: I Started the Thing!
- 2: Step Out of My Comfort Zone
- 3: When Plans Go Out the Window
- 4: Trying Out a Magic Notebook
- 5: Lessons from Unintentional Black Ski Runs
- 6: In Which We Adopt a Cat!
- 7: Curious Cat Enjoys All Existing Cords as Snacks
- 8: Mother Gothel SUCKS
- 9: Black Panther’s Sister is My Spirit Animal
- 10: A Plan is Coming Together
- 11: A Great-Grand Cat
- 12: My Calves Are Dead
- 13: Being Intentional Works
- 14: I’ll Raise You a Flash Flood with Hail
- 15: I Remembered Why I Hate Muggy Weather
- 16: The Magic of Sticky Notes
- 17: Time Tracking is a F*cking GAME CHANGER
- 18: So I’m a Writer for Medium Now